By Barry Lillie This past October, my daughter and son-in-law took a picture of this seventy-one-year- old grandpa (me) with my three-year-old granddaughter hand in hand on the Gulf of Mexico in Naples, Florida. I realize now how uncertain my journey to this time and place was. The reason—I became a separated dad twenty-five years … More On Being a Dad and Grandpa
by John Hoffman Last month, in honour of Mother’s day, I focused on the invisible workload of moms and why dads should be mindful of it. However, there is also an invisible load that men and fathers carry. And it has to do with mental health and stress. That’s the argument made by author Josh … More Do Fathers Have an Invisible Load Too?
By John Hoffman So, yet another study has found that father involvement is beneficial for babies. This particular one found that toddlers whose fathers had been more engaged and sensitive scored higher on a sort of toddler IQ test called the Bayley Scales of Infant Development. My reaction: So what? Tell me something I don’t … More Why Are Researchers Still Obsessed with Proving that Good Fathers are Good for Kids?
Upcoming Trainings you may want to take advantage of: Into the Circle – June 13, Toronto, ON Together we will share experiences, stories, and best practices that will support our efforts to encourage and strengthen the role Aboriginal men play in their children’s lives. We will also be introduced to Circles of Fatherhood, a program … More The Directive – May 19/17
by John Hoffman The other day I read an article about women’s invisible workload, written by Lisa Wade, professor of sociology at Occidental College. The idea that mothers have a hidden workload – a psychological and emotional burden – that men don’t always see is not a new idea to me. I have written about … More How Well Do You See The “Motherload”?
Welcome to The Directive. This is a regular assortment of father related news stories, information, and fun stuff. If you have anything you would like posted here, please send it our way. Do you work with Indigenous families? We are hosting Into the Circle with Native Child and Family Services on June 13 in Toronto. … More The Directive: May 4/2017
by John Hoffman A few months ago, a book called the The Collapse of Parenting got a lot of press. Maclean’s magazine did a feature story on this book that included this tagline: “It’s time for parents to grow up. If anyone can be called the boss in modern, anti-hierarchical parenthood, it’s the children.” Nice….Not. I … More Parent Critics