The Motherload

by John Hoffman I’ve been writing about fatherhood for a long time—a loooong time. And over the years there are a few themes I have kept coming back to because I think they are so important. One of them is “the motherload.” That’s the somewhat intangible (and to men, sometimes invisible) load of responsibility, care, …

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Young Girls Biggest Concern? It may not be what you think.

by John Hoffman This blog post was inspired by an October 11 Facebook post made by my federal MP, Maryam Monsef. October 11 was the international day of the girl. That day, Ms. Monsef hosted a Girls Leadership Assembly at the Peterborough, Ontario school she attended as a girl. She asked Grade 7 and 8 …

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Big Talks and Tricky Conversations

ed note: Many interesting and confusing things are going in the world today.  With the school year looming we thought it would be prudent to consider how to talk with about  those issues that directly affect our kids.  In this post, John encourages us to have these important conversations as we journey through life with our …

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FUN: It’s important to child development in more ways than you think

by John Hoffman It always sticks in my craw a little bit when people say, “Play is child’s work.” I know what they’re trying to get at. Play is a really important part of children’s development. But what bugs me about comparing child’s play to adult work is that, forme, play is the exact opposite …

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On Being a Dad and Grandpa

By Barry Lillie This past October, my daughter and son-in-law took a picture of this seventy-one-year- old grandpa (me) with my three-year-old granddaughter hand in hand on the Gulf of Mexico in Naples, Florida. I realize now how uncertain my journey to this time and place was.  The reason—I became a separated dad twenty-five years …

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Do Fathers Have an Invisible Load Too?

by John Hoffman Last month, in honour of Mother’s day, I focused on the invisible workload of moms and why dads should be mindful of it. However, there is also an invisible load that men and fathers carry. And it has to do with mental health and stress. That’s the argument made by author Josh …

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Why Are Researchers Still Obsessed with Proving that Good Fathers are Good for Kids?

By John Hoffman So, yet another study has found that father involvement is beneficial for babies. This particular one found that toddlers whose fathers had been more engaged and sensitive scored higher on a sort of toddler IQ test called the Bayley Scales of Infant Development. My reaction: So what? Tell me something I don’t …

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