by John Hoffman The other day I read an article about women’s invisible workload, written by Lisa Wade, professor of sociology at Occidental College. The idea that mothers have a hidden workload – a psychological and emotional burden – that men don’t always see is not a new idea to me. I have written about … More How Well Do You See The “Motherload”?
by John Hoffman I want to pick up on a point a father named JC made in my last blog. He said that when he first starting going to his local dad program it seemed that, like him, all the dads he met were struggling a bit to figure out their role. In their families … More Finding Your Niche as a Parent
by John Hoffman Like many people I was touched and impressed by the Women’s March on Washington, and the sister marches in other cities all over the world. But of all the photos and video clips I saw, here’s the one I thought about the most. It was a photo of a young guy marching … More What the Women’s March on Washington Means to Me as a Father
Today, December 6, is the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women. Dad Central Ontario believes strongly in the importance of a caring, supportive relationship between parents. This post reminds all of us of the value of motherhood in the healthy development of children. -ed. by John Hoffman When I started taking our first … More Does Society Expect Less of Fathers Than Mothers?
by John Hoffman In my last post I started looking at conflict between parenting partners. This time I want to talk about what some experts call corrosive conflict. That’s the ongoing, unresolved conflict that poses the real danger to relationships. Corrosive conflict is like rust. It can gradually damage a relationship that once was strong. … More Does your relationship need the “Anti-Corrosion Treatment?”
by John Hoffman People sometimes talk about new fathers being “jealous of the baby.” I’ve never liked that. It paints fathers as self-absorbed and immature. And it pits Dads and babies as competitors. Ick. But most of all it oversimplifies some issues that we really should talk about. Obviously, having a baby brings big changes … More You’re Not the Most Important Person Right Now . . . But You’re Still Important
by John Hoffman I’ve said this before, but I keep saying it because it’s important. One of the single most important factors that affects fathering is the father’s relationship with his partner. Guys who have a good relationship with their partners tend to be more involved, happier and more effective as parents. Research has proven … More The Couple Relationship: Where does baby fit?