Welcome to The Directive. This is a regular assortment of father related news stories, information, and fun stuff. If you have anything you would like posted here, please send it our way. Do you work with Indigenous families? We are hosting Into the Circle with Native Child and Family Services on June 13 in Toronto. … More The Directive: May 4/2017
by John Hoffman Are you a smoker? Thought about quitting? No doubt you have. I have never been a smoker myself. So I don’t feel qualified to give people advice about how to go about quitting. However, few would argue the point that the health-related reasons for quitting are compelling. And when you become a father there’s another big reason – setting a good example (and being healthy) for your kids. But, as we all know, smoking is an addiction, and addictions are hard to break. So anybody who wants to quit usually needs more than just willpower. Fortunately, there are now some great supports and products to help people quit including nicotine patches and nicotine gum. And there is now a great Canadian resource called Dads in Gear for fathers who want to quit smoking. Dads in Gear is about more than just quitting smoking. It’s also about healthy lifestyle and plain old being a good dad. But quitting smoking is a primary focus. One thing I really like about the site is the personal stories about quitting. I particularly liked a video where a young dad named David talks about his reasons for quitting and how he went about it. I really admire his honesty and his very direct way of speaking. David tells a story about how three guys he was working with – all smokers – had all come to work one day without cigarettes. That day was going to be day one of quitting for them. David was all like, “I’m really going to try with you guys.” But in the back of his mind he was thinking there was no way he could really do it. “I am not going to be able to come to work without a pack of cigarettes,” he said. “Because it goes hand in hand. You go to work and you bring your smokes. You make sure you have them before you start your day.” What’s interesting is that, of that group of four, David is the only one who ended up quitting. And it was the thought of his family, particularly his baby son that motivated him. “I didn’t want to be a father that smoked,” he says simply. David wanted his son to grow up in a smoke-free environment, unlike himself, who grew up in a house where both parents smoked. But the thought of his family kept him going; that plus the fact that, as he puts it, “I really didn’t want to smoke.” David says he never used non-smoking aids to stop the cravings. “I just thought about my family. I felt like I would be a failure to them if I’m trying to quit smoking and then, here I am having a cigarette.” At the time the video was made, David had been cigarette-free for eight months. Ironically, he doesn’t feel like he’s an ideal role model. He’s afraid that his story might seem to make it sound like quitting smoking is easier than it really is. “It was really, really hard at times,” he says. But, the thought of his family kept him going; that plus the fact that, as he puts it, “I really didn’t want to smoke.” I have to think that this kind of personal story – unscripted, just a guy saying it in his own words – is more effective than some expert rehashing all the health risks of smoking. Most smokers already know the risks. Dads in Gear has other personal quitting stories as well. The site also has information and videos about healthy eating, active lifestyle, things to do with kids and information about Dads in Gear groups in different towns in BC. It’s one of the best new resources for fathers that I’ve seen recently. And if a guy who wants to quit (and most smokers do and have tried at some point), becoming a father is as good a motivation as I can think of. Dads in Gear is there to help.
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Chris Pellerin, Support for Dads New Brunswick Support for Dads is honoured to be attending and presenting at the 2nd Canadian National Fatherhood Conference in Winnipeg, MB, hosted by Dad Central Canada. Taking part in a coming together of like-minded individuals focusing on strategies for working with vulnerable dads is truly an eye-opening experience. A … More Side-by-Side Conference:one man’s perspective
Fatherhood has a lot of different meanings. Dad Central Canada is looking for those ideas to be promoted on a t-shirt that will be sent out across the country. Do you have an image, saying, or logo idea that reflects the value of fatherhood? We are looking for creative designs that could promote the importance … More T-Shirt Design Contest
We just wrapped up a teleconference call focused on supporting fathers who live in rural and small communities in Ontario. Here is a list of some best practices we talked about. Partnerships Working with larger employers can help – they are often community minded – can be a great support for engaging fathers and families … More Strategies for Engaging Rural Fathers
All our resources are now available through the new and improved store.dadcentral.ca. We encourage you to bookmark this site so you can access the resources you are looking for quickly. As a thank-you for your patience as our store was not available for a time we are offering a 10% discount coupon valid until Nov … More Dad Central Store Re-opens