What I Wish I Knew Then: Three lessons to ring in the new year – Part 3

In the third and final post of this series I share the most important lesson I've learned, and how it changed our family.

On Being a Dad and Grandpa

By Barry Lillie This past October, my daughter and son-in-law took a picture of this seventy-one-year- old grandpa (me) with my three-year-old granddaughter hand in hand on the Gulf of Mexico in Naples, Florida. I realize now how uncertain my journey to this time and place was.  The reason—I became a separated dad twenty-five years …

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Conflict with Your Ex: Inevitable . . . but you can handle it

by John Hoffman One question I have been asked repeatedly because of my role as a fathering writer is, “What can I do when my ex-wife is interfering with (or being unreasonable about) my time with my kids?” For the record, I’ve also talked to moms who only wished their ex would spend more time …

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Stepdads: What Children Need

Any father might wonder at times what role he should play in his family. Fathers in blended families probably have even more questions. Is the role I play with my stepchildren different from the one my partner plays with them? Is it different from the role I play with my own children? What role should …

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Fathering After Separation

In a perfect world I suppose every relationship would remain intact til death do us part.  However, the reality is that sometimes relationships don't last and families find themselves needing to adapt to separation, divorce and other changes.  If this is you, here are some thoughts about adjusting: Grief and Loss For some people it …

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Separated from the Kids – Staying in Touch

The holidays are special times for most families.  But there are families who are separated for one reason or another.  One of the biggest problems for separated fathers is feeling a loss of connection with their children. Here are some ideas for maintaining your connection when you can’t be with them for the holidays. Phone your child …

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